Friendly "Nice Guys" And SEXY "Bad Boys"
This week I'm going to do something a little
bit unusual...
First, I'm going to ask you to consider
something, then I'm going to give you some
homework.
This week is all about ACTION!
Here's the thing I want you to consider first:
I was reading an article on AOL titled "What's
Wrong With Nice Guys?"... here's a little quote
from the article:
"...Do Women Date Naughty Guys but Marry Nice
Ones? This notion sounds an awful lot like the
irritating good-girl/bad-girl distinction that men
continue to make. Still, it does contain a nugget
of sense. Since women truly are conditioned to be
"good girls," sometimes we feel uncomfortable with
or guilty about that pure burning "I must have
him!" feeling. That's why we sometimes seek out a
bad boy to serve as the object of these desires,
says Cleveland psychotherapist Belleruth
Naparstek, creator of the Health Journeys series
of guided imagery tapes. "In order for the
deliciousness of pure lust to be 'okay,' it has to
be for the symbolic bad boy who has nothing to do
with the rest of your life. With him, you can
crank up your animal impulses, worry-free," she
says...."
Interesting, isn't it?
Now, I personally disagree with the idea that
women "seek out" Bad Boys because they need
somewhere to "project their guilty lust"... and I
disagree with the idea that there's something
"wrong" with the fact that women are attracted to
Bad Boys...
But the point is that the "mainstream"
psychology and behavior world is starting to
accept the idea that women are ATTRACTED to "Bad
Boys".
It will probably be another ten years before
anyone with a degree puts two and two together and
says, "Hey, maybe women feel ATTRACTION towards
Bad Boys for natural, evolutionary reasons, and
that's why Bad Boys are considered "sexy"..."
Hell, maybe I should say it... Oh wait, I
already did...
Whatever.
Point is, there's something to the idea that
woman don't feel that powerful GUT LEVEL
ATTRACTION for "nice" guys who chase after them
and kiss up to them.
Women do, on the other hand, feel that magical
emotion called ATTRACTION for BAD BOYS.
Of course, I don't believe that you MUST be a
jerk, or abuse women in order to make them feel
attracted to you. There's a much better way...
OK...now for THE HOMEWORK...
Here's what I want you to do...
If you own my eBook "Double Your Dating", go to
chapter 4, and read it again.
If you own my Advanced Series, I'd like you to
go to Day 2, Section 1, and review again.
(If you don't own these yet, then you need to
get them immediately! You're cheating yourself if
you don't invest in YOURSELF in this area...
really.)
Now, I want you to do something CONSCIOUSLY
this week.
I want you to do the following with the next 5
women that you talk to over the next few days...
(these should be women that you would be
interested in dating):
1) Smile all the time.
2) Be very nice, cordial, and friendly. Use no
sarcasm, and don't tease.
3) Act as if you really "like" the woman you're
talking to... and as if you're "interested" in
her.
4) Give her lots of compliments.
5) Optional: Politely say, "You probably have a
boyfriend, right? Can I take you out sometime?"
Pay careful attention, and notice how the
women respond to you.
Now, I want you to try something different with
the NEXT 5 women you talk to...
1) Don't smile very often.
2) Pretend that you've known her for 20 years, and
that you're TOO comfortable around her. Tease her
for something that no one teases her about... like
the way she dresses, etc.
3) Pretend that she's interested in YOU, and has
been pursuing YOU, and that you're resisting her.
Make jokes about it and say things like, "I just
don't think things are going to work out between
us".
4) Give her NO compliments of any kind. If she
gives you any say, "That's a cheesy pick up line.
Can't you think of something more original?"
5) Optional: Say, "Hey, do you have email? Good.
Write it down here..."
...and pay attention to the difference.
If you really "play it up", you'll notice a
HUGE difference between the first five women you
talk to and the next five.
During the first set of five, when you're being
a "Nice Wuss", you'll see the looks on the women's
faces that say, "Oh no. Another guy who "likes"
me. How can I get rid of him politely?..."
During the SECOND set of five, you'll see the
women opening their mouths with the "half smile,
half oh-no-you-didn't-just-say-that" look. You'll
feel a TENSION in the air. You'll notice that some
of the women will actually look at you as if they
can't believe what they're hearing.
If you're particularly sharp and funny, you
might just have one or two of them say, "I like
you... we have to hang out sometime" within the
first few minutes of the conversation. By the way,
you will NEVER hear that when you're playing the
"Nice Wuss".
(SIDE NOTE: I once went out with some friends
and while taking pictures of them, I overheard
this girl talking to her friend. I took what she
and her friend were talking about and I teased her
about it... And within no more than 60 seconds the
girl was saying, "Ohmygod, I like you! We need to
hang out sometime..." - Really.)
Do your homework! And have FUN while you're at
it.
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